Today we are thrilled to have Kari Kampakis, author of 10 Ultimate Truths Girls Should Know, as a guest blogger!
There’s a lot involved in raising a daughter. A lot of time. A lot of love. A lot of listening. A lot of learning. A lot of guidance. A lot of giving. A lot of observing. And above all, a lot of praying.
I often remind myself that as much as I love my four daughters, their Creator loves them more. He has plans for their lives that I’m supposed to enable, not interrupt. Consciously or not, I also have plans for my daughters’ lives. And sometimes what I want isn’t what God wants. That’s one of the many reasons why I’m a praying mom…because I need divine insight. I need God opening my eyes, my heart, my mind, and my soul to His will, His way, His perfect timing. It’s easy to trust God when all is good with my family. The real test of this mother’s faith, however, is how well I trust Him when my heart breaks for one of my children, or when I don’t understand why He’s allowed certain events to happen.
Fortunately, I’ve lived long enough to see God’s faithfulness in my life. I can look back and see clearly what Romans 8:28 means: “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Since my daughters have a short history, they haven’t developed this perspective yet. They haven’t fully witnessed, time and again, how a hardship or disappointment now can lead to amazing blessings later for those who trust the Lord. This is why I find it particularly important that we mothers share our perspective with our daughters.
Through our filter of faith, hard-earned over many years, we can help them find hope in any situation. Oftentimes, hope is what our daughters need most. They want someone they trust to reassure them that no event in their life is a waste because God can use it all for His glory and that their future is still bright and promising despite any current setbacks. Following is a prayer I’ve written for mothers of daughters. I hope it’s helpful for you.
Thank you for the beautiful gift you’ve given me in my girl. May she light up her corner of the universe and radiate far and wide for You. Shape her heart into the image of Jesus. Help her fall in love with Him. Fill her with a peace so deep and real that she craves the comfort of the Holy Spirit over fame and attention from the world. Let her see herself through Your loving eyes. Help her recognize negative thoughts as the enemy’s voice and conquer them with truth. May she respect her body as a temple of the Holy Spirit and use it to glorify You.
Surround her with godly friends. When she is weak, let them be strong. Help them build each other up as sisters in faith. Let their joy and laughter be contagious. Keep their eyes and hearts open to those who need a friend. Protect her with Your angels to safeguard her and help her discern right from wrong, good versus evil. Let her stand on the spiritual shoulders of those before her to bravely serve Your purpose in her generation. Help her hear and heed your call for her. Fill her with wisdom, truth, and light so her choices honor you.
When she messes up, when she falls, when she feels helpless or discouraged, restore her with grace. Let Jesus’s presence be unmistakable. Help her embrace her weaknesses as opportunities for you to shine and bring redemption. Protect her heart, Lord, and root her confidence in Jesus.
In dating, academics, career, relationships, and other matters, make Your plan apparent. Give her a tender heart and a thick skin. Help her stay resilient to the world’s negativity, criticism, and judgment…yet never lose her love and hope for mankind.
Help me help her, Lord. Guide my steps so I can parent with courage, grace, wisdom, and selfless love.
Above all, help me love her well. Help me rejoice in the woman she’s becoming and trust Your vision for her. I love my daughter with all my heart, mind, and soul. I’d lay down my life for her anytime, anyplace.
Please bless our relationship and keep our connection strong. One day, when we’re past the trials of adolescence, I pray that we’ll joyfully call ourselves the best of friends.
In Jesus’s name, I pray,
Raising daughters is a challenge and a privilege. Today’s girls are tomorrow’s leaders, wives, mothers, and world-changers. And while we don’t always the answers our daughters need, we know the One who does. And as long as we point them to God, we can find some peace in the journey. Do you have special prayers for your daughters or favorite Scriptures you pray over them?
Kari Kampakis is the mom of four daughters and a blogger and newspaper columnist from Birmingham, Alabama. Her first book, 10 Ultimate Truths Girls Should Know, releases November 4 through Thomas Nelson. Her writing has been featured on HuffPost Parents and reflects her passion for family and God. A graduate of the University of Alabama, Kari holds an MBA and public relations degree. Find Kari’s blog and learn more by visiting karikampakis.com. Connect with Kari: Website / Facebook / Twitter / Instagram / Pinterest