I also had lofty goals for myself.
I figured I could easily write a book, launch a few ‘how-to’ and ‘best-of’ video series, finish every photo album I’d missed from years past, clean out the garage from the last three moves and become the proper Southern wife my husband always dreamed of having. But then I had to get real. I had similar emotions right before my first child was born; I actually recall telling someone, “I don’t know what I’m going to do with all my time once the baby is born!” (No joke).
Perhaps no-one felt comfortable enough telling a first-time mom who was 8 months pregnant that she was crazy to think that she’d accomplish anything other than taking a shower by herself once a week and successfully taking the diapers from the changing table to the trash!
But it was the same feelings of delusional super-powers I embraced then as I did at the beginning of this school year.
But when push comes to shove, it will most likely be decades before they ever recognize whether I wrote a book or finished a photo album. What they will realize tonight is whether or not I played tickle monster with them after dinner or read them a story before bed.
Their expectations are minimal, but the rewards are endless.
It’s not to say my goals are not worthy or worthwhile, but simply a check to encourage and challenge you to actually stop and ask your kids what matters to them. Chances are you’ll find that they’re much more concerned with family fun night & making forts with you at home then they are about having you work late so you can afford an exotic family vacation. Always remember, just because the goal may not seem as big in your eyes does not mean it’s not infinitely important in the lives of your children.
In fact, if you’re looking for the perfect book to share with your kiddos in time for Mother’s Day that summarizes just what is important in the eyes of your child, read the sweet words of Amy Parker in Thank You, God, For Mommy. I guarantee you will make more time for hugs after this one!