Check out this great Q&A on staying rooted with the Cimorelli sisters, who recently just released their book – Believe in You.
– How do you stay close as a family while living busy lives?
KATHERINE: It’s definitely challenging to stay close when you have 13 people in all different stages of life and trying to coordinate busy schedules. For us, we schedule family dinners and get-togethers regularly to get everyone together. Even though it’s just the simple act of getting together for a meal and then walking around the neighborhood together, the family dinners become some of our most treasured moments together. We just have to be intentional about setting aside that time to do it.
LAUREN: I think by putting in the effort to make time for each other, like planning family dinners on Sunday nights and going on outings as a family. Making it a priority to check in with each other and see how everyone’s doing is also really important. Really, everyone has a busy life, and you can fit into it what you make a priority.
– How has your family been a good influence or a positive presence in your lives?
LISA: Our parents raised us with strong Christian values and a solid work ethic. Whenever we went through hard times, we knew not to give up without a fight. We’ve always been there for each other if one of us is struggling. I’m not sure how our parents did it but they raised us to be so close to each other! We have the ultimate support system in our family.
AMY: My family has been a good influence on my life in so many ways. They keep me rooted and accountable (especially my sister Lauren). They have brought faith and love into my life in so many ways and it’s inspiring to see how they all live out their faith and love in their lives.
– How do you resolve conflict with your family and/or siblings?
CHRISTINA: Resolving conflict with a family member can be such a challenge but is so worth it in my opinion. The hard part about resolving anything is that it takes two. You can’t control the other person’s behaviors so you really have to just focus on your own. I like to really think through or even write out or talk to someone else about the issue first to gather my thoughts and assess where I’m wrong and where I believe I still need to stand firm. Then, I ask the person to meet with me in a non-threatening setting and I will bring up my points in the calmest manner I can. It’s important to truly try your best to see the situation from their side and point out where you see their side and where you think they are right. Overall, the bottom line here is that we need to be having more calm, open-minded conversations with family and trying to understand each other and why we think the way we do. The act of even trying to understand goes a long way in itself.
KATHERINE: Something I’ve learned over the years with family is that it’s really important to be honest and tell people how you’re feeling, even though that can be awkward and uncomfortable. If something is bothering me with a family member, the more I keep it inside, the further we start drifting apart, and that’s just not worth it for me. I think it’s more important to stay connected, even if it’s uncomfortable for me to be honest. I have definitely gotten better at speaking honesty with love to my family members, and it’s helped me resolve conflict more than anything else.
– What are some of the values/parenting styles/techniques that you’ve learned from your parents that you will apply to your future family?
CHRISTINA: One great thing I can really appreciate even more now that my parents did growing up is that I always knew I could depend on them for encouragement. They almost never limited us with their words. No matter how good we were at something, they were incredibly good at encouraging growth and development rather than shooting us down or trying to protect us from disappointment when they thought we might not excel at something. I will absolutely be taking this with me into my own parenting in the future.
KATHERINE: For my mom, I’m extremely grateful for her dedication to her faith and how she instilled that in me and my siblings. She never was pushy about it. She simply lived out her faith and she was an incredible role model for me in that. For my dad, I always admired how humble he was. If he ever made a mistake, he always made it a point to apologize. That stuck with me and made me respect him because he had the humility to admit when he was wrong.
– What are some of your favorite family events, activities, or traditions?
LAUREN: Christmas is always very chaotic in a good way for us. I feel like everyone is in a good mood and I love watching people open their gifts. We have fun traditions like singing at our church, and our mom always makes a special Christmas breakfast every year. Also, on Christmas night, we watch a movie together as a family.
DANI: We have a family tradition where we go around the table and say a favorite memory or quality of the person whose birthday it is. It’s really loud and fun and very heartwarming! It’s also really fun around Christmas time when we get our Christmas tree together. We always go cut it down at a farm and it’s a whole Christmas experience.
– What are some of your favorite places or memories from family vacations?
LAUREN: We went to Iowa for a family reunion this past summer. We hadn’t done a family trip in a while, just for fun. Usually, when we travel it’s work-related, so it was fun to see the “roots” of our family since it was our grandparent’s hometown. We got to spend time together without the pressures or constraints of a work trip.
DANI: Almost 10 years ago, we drove all the way from Sacramento, California to Houston, Texas in our 15 passenger van to visit a friend. It took 3 days and it was crazy! We didn’t take a lot of vacations because of how big our family is, but all the ones we went on were always fun, loud and memorable.
– How do you stay rooted?
AMY: I stay rooted by keeping my roots in my faith. Praying and diving into my relationship with God keeps me on track and rooted in love and the security of his mercy and grace.
LISA: With all growth in life comes fear, uncertainty and the pain of stepping out of your comfort zone. As our career grows and evolves over time, we feel these “growing pains” constantly but it only pushes us closer to God. Without Him, it can feel like life is out to get you and someone is always coming to “take your spot”. But we are always reminding ourselves that God provides infinite love, strength, and abundance for all His children and there’s more than enough to go around. No one can take God’s favor from you!