God promises in Romans 8:28 to work all things together for good for those who love Him. That is a promise I hang onto when things get hard in my life. Big problems, little problems, seemingly insurmountable problems…we are never far from something that has the potential to make us miserable or even grief-stricken. And yet…we are even closer to a God who carries all of that in His capable hands. His everlasting, never-failing love is ready to not only catch us but work something good for us in our desperation.
As our family has gone through a recent crisis, I have seen how important it is to look for the good He is working in us. I am working to be open with our children. I check with them several times a day to be sure they are doing ok with what has happened. We read together, we listen to music, we talk about how we can look for the good in what God is doing through our struggles. I have purposed to take the time each night to sit with the kids, either in a group or individually, and share what good we each saw that day. Being sure to look for the good God is doing has made an enormous difference in how we see our problem. And it builds our faith that His promises are true. Occasionally it is really hard to find something good. But then I will point out that we might not have even stopped and sat to talk if we weren’t struggling. How sweet it is to stop and express our love and support for one another. God is showing us His love for us through our efforts to comfort one another. And that is good.
I love to share with them what God is showing me in my brokenness. How healing it is for them to see that even Mom and Dad have much to learn. And they have been blessed by being able to comfort us, their parents, during our time of sorrow. It has given our children a chance to show maturity and strength and be a source of support for their family. And that is good.
One afternoon at lunch I asked if each person would just share what God is doing in their life right now. It didn’t need to be deep…just anything. What poured out of our children was evidence of a fresh hunger to lean more on God and trust in Him. I had not expected their answers to be so deeply thoughtful and rich. It blessed my soul to know that God is using our crisis to draw them near to Him. And that is good.
I have also looked for ways to spend time together to take our minds off of our problems. And there’s nothing like a good book to take you away for a while. My younger boys especially love the story of the little seed and the little fox in It will be Okay by Lysa TerKeurst. It inspires them to remember that we can trust God. Whatever comes your way in life, God wants us to look at it as an opportunity to glorify Him and draw close to His grace.
Look for the good….it is always, always, always there!