What makes a good mother? I constantly ask myself this without even realizing it. As I flip through Facebook, I see all the adorable new babies being born. Along with most birth announcements, comes the phrase, “baby and mommy are doing well.” A simple phrase, that carries a heavyweight of behind-the-scenes pain, blood, and healing still to be done. How can a beautiful miracle bring so much, all at once? Becoming a mom is a beautiful mess that starts and never ends. There are seasons of motherhood that are easier than others, but by no means easy at all. We live in a world where we constantly compare ourselves to other women, and motherhood is no exception!
We put pressure on ourselves to have the picture-perfect birth announcements, parties, capture all the milestone moments without fail, and assume the responsibility that we should do it all without failures, tears, and imperfections. Motherhood stretches us from the inside out, quite literally. As Mother’s Day approaches, we can easily get caught up in the mundane moments of our day and forget the ultimate purpose of motherhood. When we look at our children who are constantly misbehaving, we miss the good moments woven in between.
I asked some friends online what remembering their purpose in motherhood looks like to them. Here are some fantastic answers:
“God blessed me with my children. He gave me what I needed to rear them and teach them, and I must trust them to His care after they are grown and leave the nest.”
“My children are my most important priority, next to my husband. Everything else can be put to the side if need be, and I should be giving them my very best, and my very first!”
“Playing the long game!”
“Not being your child’s friend and being okay with that. Be their parent (friend sometimes), but always be their unconditional, loving, guiding, cheerleader in life. One who models a virtuous life for their children.”
“Day by day faithfulness, trusting in God’s goodness!”
“I can stay calm in the midst of the crazy.”
These are some great answers! Motherhood seems a lot like meal-prepping, cleaning up of toys, refereeing, policing, mending, teaching, training, coaching, soothing, encouraging, and taxing. But considering eternity, it all should be gospel-focused! We are raising tiny humans to become bigger humans that we hope will love and serve the Lord. Pretty simple, right? (insert long, heavy sigh) It’s not easy, but it can be beautiful and sweet as we surrender our lives as mothers to the Lord each day. So let’s remember our purpose today! Being a mom is a life-changing role, never to be taken lightly. Ask yourself these questions:
- Why did you become a mom?
- Why do you try to be a good mom?
- Why do you desire to finish well as a mom?
The beginning, middle, and end are all equally important. We must see the big picture of motherhood. Let’s all reflect on this as Mother’s Day approaches and look at it with a fresh perspective! We only get one life, let’s be intentional mothers.
Remember what Philippians 2:13 says: “For it is God who works in you, both to will and to work for his good pleasure.”