But then we hit day ten. The novelty of doing this parenting thing on my own and working late into the night had worn off and I instead just became tired and full of self-pity. Voices in my head told me it wasn’t fair to have to work and care for the kids and clean the house and take care of running the household. By week three, I’d build myself up to be a martyr, joining the ranks of women whose husbands were serving us overseas.
The truth is, I just tasted a very small glimpse of what single parenting is like, when, in actuality, millions of parents live this life day in and day out. Knowing that my perspective was limited, I asked a friend (who is no longer single, but was single at the time) to speak to what she felt was the biggest need, prayer, and misconception of single parenting. Here’s what Jamie said: Biggest need: More time in the day to be able to meet my child’s needs. Misconception: That you should feel sorry for a single parent…most of the times yes, they are the victim, but they need compassion and help, not pity. I want my children to know that relationships are not perfect and the only relationship we can fully depend on is the one with Jesus.
Relationships die, people in relationships die, and/or go away, but Jesus is always there. I also want my children to know that even though relationships end, that you should still have them and “go for it” so to speak and not live in fear that it WILL end.
So as we begin this New Year, I offer this prayer for anyone who has ever experienced life as a single parent:
Lord, be more than I ever could be, Meet the needs of my children before I could anticipate them and beyond my capacity to fill them, Place others in their life who will teach, guide and train them, And replace any weariness and guilt with peace, patience, and prosperity.
Also this month, we are celebrating the release of Lucado Treasury of Bedtime Prayers: Prayers for bedtime and every time of day! Max and Denalyn firmly believe that prayer is the foundation of a believer’s life, and they hope that this book will introduce your children to a lifetime of conversation with God! Learn more about the book HERE!